Anal Pain, Bleeding, or Bumps Limiting your Sexual Enjoyment?

Sex is supposed to be pleasurable, but many times gay men think that pain and bleeding just goes with the territory. Nothing could be further from the truth. For those that are bottoming on a regular basis they have conditioned the external and the internal muscles of the anus to relax on demand, but even the most experienced bottom can have something psychologically going on, have a meal that doesn’t quite agree, or other physical conditions that causes the ass to not respond as it is supposed to. There is a science behind the behind and there are methods to overcome the pain in the ass that bottoming can be sometimes. Maybe you are not experienced at bottoming. Bottoming is like any other sport, sport, you have to train for it. For that tight ass, sometimes it takes a medication or procedure to help (botox is not only for the face these days) but it all starts with a conversation and setting goals (sounds like the trainer at the gym, huh?). Again, if you are having pain, we need to talk!
Bleeding is another thing that shouldn’t happen during anal intercourse. Besides the pain it can also be a point of entry for sexually transmitted infections. Training up, knowing what positions work best to reduce friction, communicating with the top, and lots of lube should reduce the chances of bleeding. Hemorrhoids are an issue for many gay men. Actually everyone has hemorrhoids but when there is anal pressure and friction it can cause them to engorge where lots of blood comes to that area and then the skin becomes torn between the force of the engorged blood vessels and the pounding penis, toy, finger, etc. and they can bleed.
Lastly bumps… Let’s get right to the point, Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) is very common. It’s a virus after all. Think about how rapidly the flu spreads in the winter months from person to person. HPV is very contagious and it just takes skin rubbing together to pass the virus on. It doesn’t take body fluid exchange, it takes one of the virus cells from one body part to come in contact with the skin of another body part even with no injury. This can also happen on the same person. There will often be HPV in one area and through wiping or skin rubbing together a transfer of the virus can happen. It can be spread by contact with anus, mouth, penis, vagina, or simply the fingers. As unsightly as the genital warts manifested by the virus can be, they are very treatable. Most commonly we will start with creams and sometimes they need to be removed. Many times this can be done in the office, but the important thing is to have them evaluated to ensure that they are not the high risk types that can become cancer. Additionally they may be internal and/or external so they may not even be noticeable on the outside but hanging out inside the anus. For that reason it is important for all men that bottom to have a yearly anal PAP smear to ensure that they do not have HPV. Tops can also get genital warts that are HPV and should be seen if they notice any lesions on or in the dick. Everyone should get an HPV vaccine if they are less than 45; Straight men, Gay men, Bi Men, Straight Women, Gay Women, Bi Women, Boys, Girls…Everyone. The only exception is if you are going to have no contact (fingers, tongue, nothing) with another humans genitals.
Sex is meant to be enjoyable! If you are having pain, bleeding, or bumps I encourage you to schedule a sexual health visit with Diversity Family Health. We have a number of products that can help with many of these common issues.








